How to deal with people?

In The Name of Allah The Most Gracious and The Most Merciful

Selalunya pendapat aku tak sama dengan pendapat orang sekeliling aku. Tak bermaksud aku betul dan tak bermaksud aku salah. 

Dulu aku fikir apa yang aku fikir semuanya betul. Semua kene ikut cakap aku. Tapi semakin aku kenal dan berinteraksi dengan ramai orang, aku belajar skill baru. Skill mendengar pendapat orang, belajar menerima pendapat/ teguran. Dan kalau dulu kalau aku tak setuju aku terus... OBJECTION! Tapi sekarang aku belajar untuk tahan ledakan larva dalam hati aku. Apa yang aku tak puas hati, kalau masih boleh di kawal, saya cuba berdiplomasi, kalau tak, aku akan simpan dan MAKAN DALAM LAH. (Hahahahaa). Kadang- kadang "teknik" baru aku belajar ni tak berapa nak bagus tapi bagi menjaga "kemashlatan" bersama, ada perkara kita perlu diamkan. 

Sebagai manusia yang cuba perbaiki diri, aku belajar untuk bersikap toleransi dan menjaga apa yang kita tuturkan. Kadang apa yang kita tuturkan memang betul, tapi kita tak boleh sesuka hati nak cakap. Sebab kita mungkin akan menyakitkan hati yang mendengar. Tengok juga pada keadaan. Tak boleh sesuka hati je redah. Dan banyak kali juga aku terpelecok, silap langkah. Tapi semua tu, buat aku belajar untuk jadi yang lebih baik. Kadang frust juga bila mana kita acap kali ulangi kesilapan yang sama. Dan lately, aku belajar untuk lebih berhati- hati dalam semua perkara. Fuhhh.. Lagi- lagi handle "kejutan- kejutan" yang diberikan oleh keluarga sendiri. Kadang tu memang salah dia la.. Tapi kita tak boleh nak cakap mereka salah. Sebab kita bukan handle dengan budak- budak. Kita sedang handle dengan mak dan bapa budak! =.=" So tiring dan sangat menguji kesabaran. 

Aku memang sejak kecil lagi terkenal dengan "kelantangan" nak cakap apa sahaja, bila dah banyak belajar dari kesilapan.. aku cuba diam. Aku cuba proses kepala aku macam mana nak cakap elok- elok... Kalau ikut hati memang aku suka nak "smash" orang.. tapi apa yang aku dapat?? Boleh lah nak puaskan hati. Tapi sekejap je. Lepas tu terus diselebungi dengan rasa serba salah. Lagi- lagi bila aku sedar, apa yang aku buat, cara aku bertindak akan mencerminkan islam. Bila aku berpelakuan buruk, aku akan beri fitnah pada imej islam yang aku bawa, aku akan beri fitnah pada imej tudung labuh yang aku bawa. Sedangkan yang salahnya aku, tapi seluruh islam dan muslimat yang bertudung labuh mendapat nama buruk. Dengan itu aku sangat berhati - hati dengan apa yang aku lakukan. 

Sehingga kini aku masih lagi cuba perbaiki diri. Apa yang aku boleh katakan, nak deal dengan manusia yang pelbagai ragam, kita cuba berfikir dan bertindak secara matang. Macam mana kita nak response pada orang? Cuba kita treat mereka sebagai mana kita suka orang treat kita. Aku tahu susah. Sebab aku rasa semua tu dan sehingga aku masih merangkak- rangkak nak deal dengan manusia yang sering mendatangkan kejutan ini secara baik. 

Ada seorang kawan aku ni, dia memang cakap lepas je. Tak kisah ko kawan dia ke tak, kalau dia rasa tindakan kau salah , dia akan cakap salah. Dan dia cakap secara lantang. Mula- mula naik merah muka aku tahan marah tiap kali berbeza pendapat dengan dia. Tapi lama- lama aku bangga dengan diri aku.. Aku boleh deal dengan sifat "marah" aku! Tiap kali berlawan cakap je.. Aku cuba calm kan diri aku, dan buang semua emosi, dan bertindak secara matang. Cool. First time aku rasa bangga dengan pencapaian aku. After 25 years, baru aku dapat teknik tu! Aku tak berapa setuju dengan "sikap lantang bersuara" kawan aku, tapi aku suka cara dia handle masalah. Yup aku suka. Benda tak baik kita jangan ambil, jadikan pengajaran.. yang baik tu kita boleh aplikasi dalam diri kita. 

Aku suka dengan kata- kata yang aku cipta sendiri "24 jam koreksi diri". Sebab quote ni melambangkan aku. Tiap saat aku ada melakukan kesilapan dan tiap saat aku jumpa teknik baru memperbaiki diri.  Perbaiki diri sebagai seorang hamba-Nya, sebagai seorang anak, sebagai seorang sahabat, sebagai seorang anak murid dan sebagai seorang perempuan. 

Yang selalu cantik dan perasan cantik! (^_~)V,

jangan bace2

Setiap langkah

1,2,3 tanpa kiraan

Mengapa harus ada tangis yang mengiringi

Mengapa harus sentiasa ada keluh kesah

Mengapa harus rasa lelah

Mengapa harus cepat mengalah

Saat terasa jauh dari Tuhan

Saat terasa ketidak adilan dipersembahkan

Saat terasa dosa2 berlambakan

Saat terasa ujian semakin menyesakkan

Saat terasa tiada harapan

Tidakkah kau sedari

Udara yang kau nikmati sekarang

Pakaian yang menyaluti

Makanan yang kau jamahi

Kehidupan yang kau kecapi

Sahabat2 yang sentiasa menemani

Keluarga yang sentiasa mengasihi

Akal dan tubuh yang masih berfungsi

Nyawa yang masih disisi

Jangan kau ungkapkan keluhan ini

Jangan kau berserah saat ini

Jangan kau cari alasan lagi

Jangan kau titiskan lagi air air mata ini

Jangan pernah rasa jauh dari Illahi

Kerna Dia sentiasa disisi

Saat kau berduka

DIA ada disisi mu

Saat kau gembira, kau lupa tentang DIA

DIA masih lagi disisi mu

Saat kau kembali mengesali sesalan yang lalu

DIA masih lagi menerima mu

Jangan pernah kau berhenti saat ini

Ayuh bangkit kembali

Sejarah perjuangan Rasulullah harus dihayati

Moga menjadi nadi dah semangat untuk melayari

ranjau kehidupan ini

sematkan dihati

"Allah tidak menjanjikan untuk kamu melimpahkan kamu

dengan nikmat dah kemewahan, tetapi Allah menjanjikan

untuk sentiasa bersamamu dalam menempuhi hidup ini"

+Semoga kita semua berjaya menghadapi hidup ini sehingga yang ke nafas yang terakhir+

panjat lagi!

(yeah.. panjat.panjat. panjat lagi.. Allahuakbar!)

(di sekitar psz, utm- berehat sebentar)

salam..

ape khabar semua.

entry kali ini khas untuk merapu.

sudah berhari- hari saye tersadai di psz.

xpenah2 la rse nak rajin camni.

dan berhari- harilah juga otak saye ini cube memprocess

journal- journal yang saya bace.

naik berpinar- pinar mata ini.

kalau ibu mengandung nak muntah, loya- loya

saye pula nak muntah bace journal ni

nak memahamkannye memerlukan masa yang sangat lambat

al maklumlah otak saye benar- benar lampi dalam bab- bab ni..

tapi itu bukan merupakan penghalang bagi saya.

cehhh.. ayat semangat

owhh.... mesti semua penah dengar kan

the power of positive thinking?

kita semua ni kene la build positive thinking dalam diri kita

sebab ianya akan memandu kita untuk menuju impian kita.

sepanjang saye berada di utm ini

saya benar2 memegang prinsip ini untuk terus berdaya saing dengan yang lain

kalau sahabat- sahabat yang lain tidak punya masalah dalam memahami bab2

yang di ajarkan dalam kuliah, tiada masalah untuk menghafal..boleh cakap kalau bace last minutes pun xde hal lah...eheh..

namun saye punya masalah dalam semua itu...

menyedari kelemahan saya itu, saya mengambil langkah

dari awal untuk lebih rajin ( bukan nak puji) namun saya benar2 kena rajin

kalau nak faham. kene buat banyak latihan, kene banyak membaca.

agak tension kadang kala apabila melihat sahabat- sahabat yang lain agak relakx..

namun saya yakin, ada hikmahnya disebalik setiap kejadian.

malah saya juga yakin dan percaya bahawa jika kita berusaha bersungguh2,

insya'Allah Allah akan nampak usaha kita itu, insya'Allah keputusannya tidaklah menghampakan.

jika berlaku sebaliknya, ia merupakan ujian darinya.

berikutan dengan itu, kini saya seharusnya berusaha lebih gigih lagi.

walaupun agak tension, saya harus lawan juga perasaan ini.

yeah.. sila berusaha risha!

minggu depan 30/6/2010, pendaftaran master.

dah mula untuk buat experiment

sila bersungguh- sungguh.

agak letih saat ini.

rase ingin berehat- rehat di bilik.

huh... xpe..xelok buang mase.

huh...

chayok2!

"semoga Allah memberkati dan memudahkan segala perjalanan hidup Risha

dunia dan akhirat. ameen", insya'Allah.

puas!

Assalamualaikum wbt

Agak bersarang sungguh blog saye neh. adess nak wat cmne. bukan xde mase. tapi xde perasaan nak menulis pape pada blog ini lebih2 lagi after my phone broken down. huh. ( ade sesape yang baik hati lagi pemurah yang nak bagi enfon terlebey2 kamu itu pada saye? sila2.. ahakz..) adees.. neh bukan nak wat iklan murah k.

yeahh...Alhamdulillah now i'm in final sem to complete the degree in UTM..insya'Allah. saye juga doakan buat sahabat2 yang lain. i have to give my very best to my final sem.. chayok2!!~~V

i have to grab all the opportunity comes to me to prepare myself for the future life. the life out there is unexpected. i have to be prepared mentally & physically. if u looking for the job it's not easy as you expect as long as u prepared well & luck is always comes to u. but if u just depending on luck, i think you're not really feels satisfied even if you get the job. the demanding of the employer nowadays to take worker is to high. i have to fullfill their needs as such attribution of soft skills in every espect; team work, life long learning, leadership etc... achievement with high cgpa 4 flat it's does't meant anything to u if u are not being able to express the knowledge that u have especially in workplace as long as u works with machine...;p

my last sem here is so precious for me. i try to fill every minutes with the great activity that can give some benefits to me future. L.I.F.E is all about the learning process that u cannot get from the lesson in lecture hall. to know well bout L.I.F.E is by experiences. that's why your experiences are so precious! if you realize most interview of vacancy, they looking for the person who already had work experienced... by being the committee of club or run any programme in university will give a lot of benefit to u. seriously u will learn a lot of things immediately as long as u know to divide your time wisely....there is no meaning if u being a president of any society but u fail to manage your time wisely! As a student we have to realize the most responsible things to us right now is STUDY, STUDY & STUDY!

the process of learning u will be find the word of "FAIL", "FALL", "CRY", "SAD", "DISSAPOINTED". all these words will make our life more meaningful & BEAUTIFUL with the variety episode of your life. from there, u'll learn something even sometimes it's too hard to u. u have to feels grateful because u able to feel all these feeling and u have to be proud of urself because u able to face them well! all these feeling are just a part of our life. am i ryte?? if it's comes to u again dun afraid just face it and enjoy the feels. ;) ( i know it's not easy. Even how much i already face it, it's still being the things i afraid most..but when i through the L.I.F.E i found the reason y.. Allah know the best for us. then just FACE IT! yeahhh..;) ALLAHUAKBAR!

opening of my last sem i being a student in UTM, i participated in EEEP programme (Employment Enhancebility English Programme) organized by Al- Ikhlas Education Group. futhermore, this programme is under project of ISKANDAR MALAYSIA. one of my senior had tagged me about this programme in facebook. ( wah..facebook sangat! hahahaa...;p ). credit to her! thanx ya. during the programme, i learned a of things. i was grateful to Allah because give me this oppurtunity to join this programme. all the advisors there are really supportive even who you are. they try to motivate u to boost up ur confident level. from the person who really weak, cannot speak, not confident, afraid then being a someone better in short time. its absolutey amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AWESOME! everybody with confidently shows their ability and talent during talent night. even the english that we use "broken" english...so what???who care! AT LEAST WE TRY SO HARD TO SPEAK! yeahh... "practise makes perfect!" isya'Allah.

they also teach us to use the correct word and grammer. but seriously it's hard to me to speak to the correct grammer during conversation and even in writing.. im sorry mr. Ashok..hahhaaa........ outchhh...dowhh.... but i will improve by time goes by.. insya'Allah..i really mean it.. ;) i got a lot of friends there. i miss every moment with them especially during talent night. we had to prepare the performance in limited time for every night! we sing a song, dancing ( yeahh...even it's so ambarass me when i went back to utm! - TIK TOK song!), acting and etc.. they try to set in our mind that english is so interesting! yeah.. ALL OF YOU DID WELL!! thank you so much! I miss THEM so much!

then the continous lesson of english i joined toastmaster programme last week. 22-23th Jan 2010 at pandan city hotel. that's really great programme! All the advisors are really supportive and sporting! we had 3 task to complete. all are about PUBLIC SPEAKING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! owh no! i want to scream! i hate PUBLIC SPEAKING! i'll gonna be blurr!! confirm blurr!! all the words out from my mouth are unstructural form! hate it! again i said I HATE IT SO MUCH! i've put a lot of effort but it's does't work.. i know Allah know the best for me.. i know everything happend has a reasons. that y i'm being there. to join, join, join...again, again, n again....there is no word regret in my life. i hope one day, Allah will give me the things that i want in my life... ;) yeah..risha, chayok2!!

after i heard the speech from gerald green, it's boost my confident level up. yeah.. i want to speak in front of them! i want to challenge myself! i want to challenge my fear! i want to challenge u, RISHA! yeah.. just go and do it! don't be afraid of what people perception of u! forget about it! they'r also seems like u! gonna be blurr and the butterfly fly in their stomoch too! stop to thinking to use the great words! just use the simply words as long people can understand u. that's great! just be urself! every people have their own strenght! so show who u r. dont be afraid. yeah!! my 1st task i presented my public speaking entitled "my self". huhuuhuuuu... i just do it. i try make it different than others by make different opening. it's work! i grab their attention! they laugh!! Alhamdulillah.. when i saw the rest performance, owh gosh! they're so great! i want to be like them too! thus i didnt expect that i able won the best speaker for the my 1st task!.. alhamdulillah! it's repeatedly boost my confident up! my 2nd task i delivered a speech entitled "my bestfriend". i put my emotion during deliver that topic! ...because i really passion of that topic and once again alhamdulillah..i can attract them! congratulate risha!! it's ok..just do it the best, insya'Allah 1 day people will notice ur effort of it! and my last task i talk bout "My Superhero"....i sang a song..~~ (somebody save me!!!!!!!!!!! tu je kowt yang rangkap yang saye tau nyanyi... hahahaa..) Alhamdulillah i can deliver in the time range given.. and at the end of the programme i learned a lot of things! i can feels the improvement of me. i know it's still not enough...but alhamdulillah.. i gave my very best..and i can see it's work! at the end of the proggrame i won 1 award but i dun know what it's actually.. bcoz i dun aspect that i'll win..thus i just go front to take the present from Glenn Koh, President of MIM TM Club of JB without know what's it.. yeah i got the book written by GERALD GREEN, 1st Distinguished Toastmaster (DTM)..SYUKUR! T.H.A.N.K Y.O.U ALLAH!!

Today i walked to my faculty. i saw a lot of poster of election already hangin at the walls, on the tree and every part that they can hangin their posters. the election campus already started. the orange republic ( pro-M) vS red republic ( eVo-M) fight together to win the place for next mpp utm. i remembered the last election..yeah..i being the one "calon" but unfortunately i lose it! but like i said before, Allah know the best for us.. ;) 1 of my friends asked me, "what side r u?"...~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~"undi anda adalah rahsia!" ;)

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All the best to all the "calon2 pro-M and Evo-M!".

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Let's it be my secret!

this week i have to start write my thesis. yeah..i think it's getting interesting after i understand a little bit bout the catalyst. one of my friends give me some advise after i sigh that i dun have a mood to write it. my friend said, i have to correct my "niat". if i really do because of Allah, i'll do my very best and there're no issues anymore. yeah..credit to u! thanx for remind me ya..next week i gonna have 2 test ; organic and ob(re-test!) and the same week our subject entrepeneurship 'll gonna have a entrepeneurship's day! every group have to participate and it'll gonna be our assessment! a day before it our group 'll gonna to do interview at the company that we already chosen. Do ur best risha!

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there 'll be somethings that make me feels excited

yeahhhh~~V

chayok2!!

Allahuakbar!

"People also say "good luck!" to us,

but just luck is not enough.

it's all depend on us and U prove it!" -23/1/10

I wish to leave you with this prose as shared by 'Papa' Gerald Green :

You can love me but I must make me happy,

You can teach me but I must do the learning,

You can guide me but I will have to walk the path,

You can coach me but I must win the game,

You can even promote me but I will have to be successful,

You can pity me but I will have to bear the sorrow,

For the gift of love is not the food that feeds me,

it's the sunshine that nourishes what I must finally harvest for myself,

So if you love me ,

don't just sing me a song,

teach me to sing,

For when I'm alone,

I will need the melody.

cik Risha